I will tell you a story of when the Law of Attraction didn't work for me and how this apparent failure opened my eyes to deeper, more nuanced truths about manifestation.

I had just discovered the Law of Attraction, and I was getting more and more into the rabbit hole with the book The Secret by Rhonda Byrne and with Abraham Hicks. We all know how it starts.

For about a year, it was manifesting bliss. I was manifesting things left and right, and my third eye was opening. I had a first glimpse into how reality may be more than what it seems.

I was always open and interested in the nature of reality, but I was still living mainly in a 3D paradigm.

At that time, while studying in college in the US, I met someone special. She really caught my attention. I thought she was perfect. We connected, we had chemistry, and she checked all my boxes.

We went out on several dates…we kissed… fireworks…

I was convinced I could manifest a relationship with her. I was committed.

And then she ghosted me.

I still tried—I really did—but nothing worked. She said she wasn't ready for this right now.

I couldn't believe it.

I was 100% sure the Law of Attraction would work for me. For a while, I believed that maybe she would come back, but she didn't.

This "failure", as I saw it back then, really pushed me down a dark hole of rejection trauma, and how this thing that I trusted, the law of attraction, failed me.

I was hurt twofold by the girl and by the law of attraction.

The Law of Attraction makes you the "Creator" or "Controller" of Your Life?

Looking back, the LOA became a part of my identity. I could make anything happen. There was a big emphasis on the "I".

I! I! I!

I can do it!

Like a child throwing a tantrum.

It was a hit to my ego.

Coupled with some other events in my life, I started to become more and more anxious and suddenly, panic attacks took over me.

I was in a tornado of anxiety, panic attacks, hypochondria, and constant visits to the doctor for no real reason. I was constantly thinking that I had a deadly disease.

On top of it all, I also thought that my hypochondriac thoughts would manifest disease, amplifying everything. Have you ever had this thought?

The panic attacks even brought me into emergency rooms and ambulance calls, thinking that I was having a heart attack. This happened multiple times.

It became awful. I reached a very low point. It interfered with my daily life and relationships, and I retreated from the world.

So what happened next?

From this dark place of thinking that I was dying and with so much cortisol and stress in my body, I said: I can't go on like this. I need to do something.

Having had more than enough, a powerful intention came:

To get better.

I was committed to getting myself out of this. Very importantly, I was committed to being patient with myself and understanding myself. I refused medical treatment; I didn't want to be on anxiety medication, although I was seriously advised to.

This thing that I trusted with my life, the Law of Attraction, failed me. Was it even real? Or was I delusional this entire time? I said I will leave the Law of Attraction on pause, but I will not give up on it entirely. I will come back to it when I feel the time is right.

The Shift

So, I made a plan that involved a mix of things, some of which were Qi Gong and energy healing sessions. I had gone to Qi Gong classes before, but I was not taking them seriously. So now I started to practice Qi Gong in a group class several times a week and on my own at home as well.

However, the most important thing I did that guided my decisions was my strong intention to change.

It took a couple of months for the panic attacks to stop, but they did stop completely. My anxiety was still there but much less than before. Today, I know how to manage anxiety, and when it comes up, I understand its value.

I continued with Qi Gong up until this day and I have developed my abilities to feel energy.

I also got back to deepening my esoteric knowledge and practices, which go far deeper than the Law of Attraction but also involve the Law of Attraction.

It took me a few years to understand what happened and some other trials, but I now have a better understanding. The problem was never the Law of Attraction. The problem, which wasn't really a problem but just a part of my journey, was that I was manifesting things from my ego and was quite disconnected from my higher self and the multidimensional nature of our reality.

From the ego, I couldn't see the bigger picture.

I was very heady about manifesting and focused on my ego's desires as if that were all that mattered. I gave more value to the outcome than to the journey.

Finally, I didn't have a grounded spiritual practice.

As a now-certified psychic, I am always deepening my connection to my higher self and helping others do the same. I have a daily spiritual practice and am always learning new things.

The Lessons:

1.   Trust and Let Go of Control—the Intelligence that created me, keeps me alive and keeps everything in the Universe moving and vibrating in perfect harmony is much smarter than I am. I learned to lean on this Intelligence, to trust it, and to let it hold me. I don't need to control everything in my life with the Law of Attraction. Divine Intelligence is looking out for me even when I don't consciously create. This lesson solidifies itself through practice.

2.     Intentionally Practice Letting Go. Do something that forces you to get out of your comfort zone and requires you to trust and let go of control. It's not skydiving for me, not yet, anyway.

3.     To Develop a Personal Connection with The World Beyond The 5 Senses that isn't just rooted in belief or blind faith but in actual experiences. When you start to have certain experiences, feel energy, get messages from spirit guides that are as clear as this screen in front of me, your idea of what is "real" starts to change, and you create a very real connection with this world. Theory is only one piece of the puzzle, and experience is another important one.

4.     Coming Down to Earth—Grounding and appreciation for my time here are essential. While mystical experiences change your life, I learned that appreciating my time here in this body is just as important as the spirit world. I am a child of the Universe, but I am also a child of this earth for now.

5.     Balance Between The Universe's Role and My Role—Understanding the balance between trusting Intelligence and knowing when to take control.

6.     When in Doubt, Listen and Connect. The Answer Will Come.

7.     Fear, Panic Attacks and Anxiety are Sometimes Blessings in Disguise, saying you are not living your life in flow with nature. You are running against the stream.

8.     Manifest from a Place of Alignment. Become a connected creator.

9.     Become What You Want to Manifest— If you want love, you can't find love through an attitude of control. Become a loving person, and you will find love. Love and control are very different energies.

10.  You Can Still Manifest Your Ego's Desires, but in the end, they are not what makes you feel fulfilled and happy in the long run.

These lessons aren't just about correcting course but about deepening my connection with my higher self and embracing a more holistic approach to manifestation.

This is what I call a "Connected Creator."

In the end, I did manifest a beautiful relationship with the most wholesome, incredible person, and today, we've been together for 5 years. I did find her when I was not looking when I fell more in love with life and myself. But that's a story for another time.

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With Love,

Ana (Spiritual & Intuitive Coach)